So here we are again, someone has made you upset to the deep core of who you are. You’re emotions have been riding on high like it once was as a kid. You’re pissed off, upset, thinking that you know better and are better then so-n-so. You’re making every excuse in the book as to why you’re right and they are wrong. How they’ve done wrong by you and that they just don’t get you. Why hello ego, it’s been awhile, but you don’t care, nope not in the slightest because you’re hurt, angry, and just overall upset.
You’ve gone ahead and been triggered by someone.
Now what? After the dust has settled, and you’re left still upset and with what seems to be nothing resolved. Both you’re own stubbornness and theirs getting the best of you and you’ll be damned if you’re wrong this time, but deep down you know they’re not the only ones in the wrong. Are you ready to face up to whats actually going on? Why you were thrown into a fit? Cause if you are, here is what’s gone ahead and happened after the fight, quarrel, dispute with this other individual(s).
Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of all? The answer is we all are, and the ones who are triggering us on the inside and causing all this turmoil are just deep parts of our shadow self coming to light. We’re being reflected back the parts of our selves that we hate, don’t agree with, or haven’t accepted with love and forgiveness. I’ve said this many times that we’re all just reflections of each other. We are constantly receiving information to our beings from the outside to shape and transmute who we are on the inside. First and foremost though, we must soften to the fact we’re no perfect then the next person and can be in the wrong as well. We all have faults of our own, and in need of taking ownership of it. Because only when we know our greatest weaknesses can they actually become some of our biggest strengths. Now here’s how we can use other peoples shit, annoyance, or dislikes in reflection to ourselves, allowing for self growth and healing to manifest. Begin by asking yourself:
What is it about them that they said, did, act that’s triggered you?
What have they (or think they have) brought up in you that needs to be healed?
What similarities do you and this person share? Be honest here!
Write a list of qualities or actions they do that you don’t agree with and then write it as if they were your own qualities/actions. (ex. they’re so selfish - I’m selfish)
Finally after you’ve sat and written, thought, danced, painted, breathed, screamed or cried out all that they’re actions, qualitues have brought up in you. Take a second to sit or lie down. Place your hands over your chest, softly closing your eyes and recite these words to allow yourself to fully shift and begin healing the energy in you:
“The light in me honors and respects the light in you. Thank you for reflecting back to me aspects of myself that I’ve been keeping in the dark. I now see the truth and forgive, heal and love all my perceived flaws fully. I no longer hold anger, shame, guilt, hurt, (anything else that suits what negative emotion it had brought up in you) and release it from my whole beings makeup. Through all time, space, energy and cell as it is said, so shall it be.”
Bowing the head towards the heart, take one large inhale and one huge sigh or yawn exhale letting it all out and know that in all of this you’re perfect as you are. Repeating the upper healing words above until you feel the words completely set you free and feeling lighter.
Now as for the said person(s) who was you’re mirror. Know that in healing and honoring our shadow selves they’ve shown will help us soften our reactions to all those individuals around us who were triggering. You can’t change other peoples views, but can lead by example. Only by there own choice can an individual change the inner making of there reality and world. You don’t have to agree, sacrifices your boundaries, or lower your energy to anyone if you do not feel it is right. And sometimes when it comes to another maybe it is as simple as to send them love and light (only if its coming from a true authentic place), and possibly going separate ways until change has been made in both individuals to try and have any sort of relationship. I truly believe that if they are meant to be in your life the universe will have no other choice then to keep them there.
With that please remember to be kind, to all others and most importantly your self. We are all here learning, growing and navigating through this thing called life.
Namaste,
TWW